Your Legacy

Whether tangible or intangible, small or large, we all leave a legacy behind us. And the non-material legacy we create is often more significant than any possessions we might have. The things we can't see or touch—such as faith, love, friendship, and the peace within our families—are the true ingredients for happiness, requiring effort to build and cherish. Our actions and daily decisions influence those around us and future generations. For this reason, it's essential not to underestimate our impact, especially on our children. They look to us for love, acceptance, and guidance.

Did you know that a person's brain continues to develop well into their mid-20s? This means that we can't expect children to make mature decisions or behave in ways that aren't age-appropriate. Our role in their lives is to model positive behaviors, teach essential skills, and pass on knowledge and values that help them develop character. This foundation will empower them to exercise their talents and navigate life's challenges.

I understand that this might seem overwhelming. After all, no one graduates from a “parenting school” before having children, and the tools we have are shaped by our upbringing and the advice we receive. What I’ve found valuable in my parenting journey is the ability to periodically assess the tools in my parenting “backpack.” It's never too late to reflect on our actions and choose the values we want to pass down. While we can hold onto the positive traditions passed to us by our parents, we aren't obligated to repeat any harmful patterns they may have imparted.

We are all human, and our parents passed down their own legacy, for better or for worse. Within that legacy, we may find things unworthy of passing on. Now it's our turn to decide what to keep and what to change because above all, we want the very best for our children.